How To Commit Sexual Roleplay in Second
This is how you
do some hot sexual roleplay in SL Gor ... makes you feel like you're
floating in air!
Image source: me.
Second Life Gor at one time had a reputation of being an
rapefest where new players, most especially new female players, are
forced to have their avatar play the game naked and have explicit
bondage sex with any player on demand, give out their home phone
numbers and credit card numbers, perform naked on a webcam and become a
slave to some guy named Derek who lives in his mother's basement and
has no job, social skills or money, but IS a bitchin' bow in Second
Life Gor, so of course she HAS to do what he says in real life.
"It DOES seem a
bit extreme, but he's a super bow in Second Life Gor!"
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It sounds like I am exaggerating here, and maybe I am, but not by much.
Second Life Gor had a horrible reputation even in Second Life, that is,
among people who were FAMILIAR with the fact that basically all of
Second Life, including Second Life Gor, is just a free-form video game.
I read so many posts where the writer clearly had forgotten that any SL
Gor player can simply shut the game off with a click of the switch that
I lost my ability to go 0o and o0 for a time.
Now there may have been some EXTREMELY credulous players who wound up
being a Derek's plaything, but mostly it was a matter of butt-ignorant
people who were freaked out by maledom/femsub sexual roleplay
projecting their freak-out onto SL Gor. Plus the early Goreans played
SL Gor hard -- slaves were expected to be submissive even in IMs, and
free women fought alongside the men and died on the battlefield with
them, while wearing thong bikinis. They were OUT THERE and enjoying the
hell out of themselves, but it could be a little scary to people who
didn't share their commitment to Gorean roleplay. The reality is, of
most people know they are just playing a game, even if it was a game
that sometimes led to love and marriage in real life ... more about
So if you want to get your freak on in SL Gor, here's the good news:
it's easy, safe and fun, so long as you don't do that irrevocable thing
I spoke about in my first post on playing SL Gor (i.e., give out real
life information about yourself). All the stuff that gave it a bad
reputation is greatly diminished, as the culture of SL
Gorean gameplay has evolved to include people with a much wider range
of backgrounds and interests than the hardcore Gor novel fans and
lifestylers who got Second Life Gor started, and who continue to live
mostly peacefully with the current crop of Gorean roleplayers.
So the best way to get involved in Gorean sexual roleplay (RP) is to
play the game. Pick your role, find a group, hang with them and learn
to play the game, by playing it. The thing about Gorean roleplay
is, it provides LOTS of opportunity for players to engage in sexual RP.
Slavegirls are SUPPOSED to be sexually available to their owners.
Warriors are SUPPOSED to be sexually interested in slavegirls (and free
women, for that matter). It's a lusty game. You can very easily find
yourself engaging in sexual roleplay the day you start. You might not
be any good at it at first, or you might be a natural, but you will
probably have fun.
Him: "I throb
with passion as I thrust my blazing rapscallion of lust into your
creamy pink slit of womanliness."
Her: "I struggle in my bonds, my warm chocolatey center gone all agooey
with passion as the Master's blazing rod ignites my slavey lustihood."
Image source: me.
Sexual roleplay in SL Gor has two elements, typically, text RP and
poseballs. Text RP is just like any other RP, you type in your
description of what your character is doing and how he or she reacts to
it. It's just that it's sex in this case. The more skilled you are at
describing your responses and painting the scene, the better.
Poseballs are scripts that animate your character and your sex
partner's character (or characters, I've seen poseballs for scripts for
threeways and fourways) so that they appear to be having sex. Often
they are associated with various kinds of sex furniture (beds, chairs,
tables, crosses, racks, etc.) so that you and your partner appear to be
having sex on that furniture.
Gorean roleplayers prepare to hop on their color-coded poseballs and
Image source: me.
The problem with poseballs is that they are scripted, that is, they
show the same sequence of generic actions over and over. You can't
control what the poses are, other than using a poseball you like. (Yes,
you can get freebie/very cheap poseballs, or freebie/very cheap
furniture with poseballs, there's pretty much a standard set of
freebies going around.) What most experienced roleplayers do with
poseballs is use them as a visual reference but are not limited by
them. You might be doing doggie style sex and describe tying your
partners hands behind her back while fucking her, even though the
animation has no animation for such activities. If you let it limit
you, things get pretty dull, so a good RPer will be keying on your
text, not what is happening with the poseballs.
When Second Life
poseballs go bad, they can go very, very bad. Here a set of poseballs
has jammed a couple right into their floor, their upper bodies dangling
from the roof of the room below them. Grisly! A glitch in SL lets us
see through the wall at a row of torches outside it. Very scenic!
Image source: me.
But suppose you don't want to do any of that? Suppose you want to only
do SOME of that? Suppose you want to HAVE DONE that in the game but not
go through the sexual RP? Well, surprise, surprise, players have come
up with some alternatives that let you handle (or not handle) sexual RP
any way you like. If you don't want to do sexual RP, you can simply not
do it, even if you're a slave. A lot of warriors do nothing but fight.
Slaves can be "restricted" by their owners or their Masters, which
means they cannot be sexually used without the permission of their
owner. Also, every SL Avatar has a text window called a "profile" that
allows you to put up various text and pictures about things that
interest you as handy way to let people know who you are and what your
It gets worse.
Poseballs routinely position their riders too low or too high, and
their are easy ways to adjust them. But really badly set up poseballs
can leave their riders at different heights, distances and
orientations, making virtual sex ... extremely silly! Not that I mind
Image source: me.
One thing that Gorean players can do is put a notice in the "Picks"
section of their profile that says what they will and won't do with
regard to sexual RP. Some say "No sexual RP" much more common are
restrictions on the kind of RP they will not engage in, such as "no
scat, no rape, no ageplay, no extreme torture, no gay sex" etc. If
someone crosses a boundary in RP, you just refer them to the relevant
section of your picks and it's understood they have to back off. Hell,
simply telling people they need to back off is sufficient, but the
profiles gives them a chance to avoid the limits altogether.
But suppose you want your character to have had sex with someone (or in
some particular way). There's are two ways to handle that. You can
agree with your partner(s) to "fade to black," following the movie
convention from the 50s that the
sex/rape/interglactic-gargleblaster-snuff-scene happened, but not
roleplaying it out (just as sex scenes were "understood" to occur in
50s movies but were not actually seen}. More in accord with Gorean
principles, but less common is the "richly and muchly" option, in which
a sex scene is briefly described ("He had her richly and muchly") but
not dwelt upon.
Now you know the secret of Kink.com's success: poseballs!
Image source: Training of O.com.
So, as you might EXPECT in a free-form game like Second Life Gor whose
rules and conventions have pretty much been made up by the players as
they went along, there's plenty of room to play the game in a way that
is comfortable and rewarding to you.
The one thing you WILL have to have is tolerance for the way others
like to play the game. If YOU don't want to play Gor in "sexy mode" you
don't have to, no one will force you to, but you if you go around
trying to force OTHERS to conform to your ideas, well, you're gonna be
One other important point: the anonymity that protects you in Second
Life Gor sexual roleplay also protect everyone else, which means you
don't know squat about the other person behind the avatar you're
playing with, necessarily. Which means that handsome Master avatar
could be controlled by a considerably LESS handsome male person in real
life. Or even by a woman in real life. The slavegirls COULD be
considerably less good-looking guys.
I really don't think that's the case for two reasons: logic and
personal experience. I'm part of a group that uses vent to raid in GE
Gor, so I hear the actual voices of the other players. They are mostly
female, but both sexes are represented. So it's not all guys, or all
gals. And the gender of the voices matches the genders of the avatars.
Plus, logically, most people will roleplay the things they enjoy.
There'll be some cross-gender roleplay, because some do enjoy it, and
because some are gonna be curious about it. There are gay roleplayers
on Gor, but you know, they tend to play gay Goreans, which contrary to
popular belief, ARE by the book. There are even gay Gorean sims,
primarily with male homosexuals (gay women tend to be panther girls,
though some play outlaws and free women in cities). But they like being
gay, and they CAN be gay on Gor, though I'm pretty sure there are
strict rules agaisnt being fabulous on Gor.
My advice is, if the thought of sexual roleplay with someone whose real
life gender is different from their avatar's gender, don't do sexual
roleplay, or if you do, make sure that person is the right gender for
you. I personally am a pure roleplayer, my character has furred other
characters on Gor, but I pay not attention to their OOC character.
Don't want to know, I'm here to play the game as a game, and sexual RP
is just another part of the game to me. But that's just me.
The sexual elements of Gorean roleplay can lead to real
life emotional bonds forming between players. It has happened and has
led to new marriages, breakups of existing marriages, the strenthening
of traditional marriages, and cyberstalking and real-life stalking.
Basically, if you develop a real life relationship, you run the same
risks you face in developing real life relationships based on contacts
intially made via the anonymity offered by other Internet connections,
and you need to take the same precautions you should take in those
cases. I'm not about to stand in the way of people finding one another
through Second Life Gor if that's what they want to do, that would be
dickish of me. If a submissive woman finds a dominant guy (or vice
versa) through SL Gor roleplay and they make each other very happy in
real life through whatever means, that's great. But everything
I've heard indicates that the odds are you'll enjoy Second Life Gor a
LOT more if
you treat it like a game. And ... it's a GREAT game, better than any
other game, by a long sight. I mean ... mommies, if you think READING 50 Shades of Gray was fun ... you ain't seen NOTHING yet!
"I'm pretty sure this poseball needs adjusting ..."
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